Wednesday, December 2, 2015

The random me

Hey blog followers, 

I am a very random person. It was bound to happen, because my family and upbringing is pretty unique and random than the average nuclear family. Not only is my family random, but I'll be the first to admit that the things that come out of my mouth are pretty random (It's why I called my blog, "Drea Said It-The Things I have to say"). I have this problem where I think people can hear my thoughts, which means people automatically know what I'm talking about without giving them a preface. 

Here are some quotes that's my friends still remind me of what I have said in the past: 

"I like to thank God for creativity. Like today, I thanked God for Twilight" (APU Study Abroad South Africa, 2009)

"Thank you Nelson Mandela for sacrificing your life." (APU Study Abroad South Africa, 2009)

The author of Twilight is intellectual. She uses fancy French words like, Fa├žade. (APU, 2010)

"We're Hydro-PLANKING" (In the car... can't remember what year)


Alright alright, they may not be funny to most of you, but for the ones who were there in those moments, you know you still make fun of me for it. I love laughing with you about it too :)

My family, the jobs I have had, my groups of friends, and life experiences that I have had have been pretty random. I broke down into categories the things that are random and explained why.


Family:

  • My dad had me when he was 60 and my sister at 61. 
  • The fact that I have sister that is 11 months and 2 weeks apart is pretty random. (yay for being Irish Twins!) 
  • I have 8 1/2 siblings and even though my mom never knew my 1/2 siblings mom- my mom was friends with my 1/2 siblings mom's, sister. 
  • I was an aunt before I was born (Yes, my nieces and nephews are older than me)
  • I was a Great-Aunt when I was 21. A GREAT AUNT!!!! I'm hopeful to be a Great-Great Aunt in my lifetime ;)
Jobs:
  • Working for Boys and Girls club at 6am
  • Had one of the best jobs in the whole world, Kindergarten Aide! (How that all happened was random in my opinion)
  • Working in Culver City (When I applied I had to idea where Culver City was, but the blessing is that my sister lived 15 minutes away from there and I didn't even know it when I applied).
  • Ending up as a computer elective teacher (The plan was elementary!!! Kindergarten, first grade, MAYBE 4th!) 
  • Ending up as a MIDDLE SCHOOL teacher ( I told people all the time, "I would never do middle school. Elementary and High school for sure, Middle school-never)
  • The only middle school experience I had was on my 1st day on the job. I'll never forget. It was Thursday, September 11, 2014. 
  • Ending up at Sandburg Middle School with the same job as C.C.M.S
  • Coaching 7th grade boys basketball this year!
Life experiences:
  • Being destined to go to South Africa
  • Getting stuck in a Sci-Fi Freshman writing class my sophomore year of college and loving it!
  • Walking up to a guy I had a crush on and telling him how he called me a boy in the 2nd grade...(What can I say, the nerves get the best of me and I had nothing better to say?) 
  • Eating Del Tacos beef burrito when it use to be the #1 with ketchup. 
  • Flew from CA to Seattle to only end up sleeping at the airport and came back home less than 24 hours(I was suppose to end up in Montana, but their was snow storm, which canceled the trip)
The beauty of all these random things are they make me, me! It's fun that I have different groups of friends, a unique family, random interests, and experiences. Most of the things I have enjoyed in my life have been put into my path randomly. I wasn't necessarily looking for it, but it found me and each event has truly led me to next. Every thing has been done for a purpose. I full heartily believe that.  Some things can't be explained, some things are in the making still, and some things are just super clear on why it is the way it is.

Whatever life has brought you, embrace it! There is a reason, a purpose, and even if you don't understand-it will one day link a puzzle piece to another. 

These are things I had to say.
#DreaSaidIt



Sunday, November 1, 2015

Thank you for loving me- Letter 1

Hey Blog Followers,

 I have been in a funk lately... I have felt sentimental and reflective of where I am in life and the people I get share it with. Not that's a bad thing, but it's just where I am. 

We often think of writing love letters to people, whether it's to lovers(P.S. Single people-you don't have to be in a relationship to write a love letters) or to someone who has gone away-things we wish we could have told them at some point. Well, my plan is to write love letters in the near future to people that I love and that I want to express to them as we are living life right now, in the present. You just never know how fast life can change and I am trying to live a life with no regrets.
 Keyword: TRYING!

 I don't want to wait to share how I feel at a funeral, a death bed, or something like that. If you feel something, you just gotta say it. When you are healthy. When you are alive. When life is good! I'm on a journey on wanting to make people feel special and to make sure that they know how loved and broken my life would be without them, because lately I have been surrounded by people who make me feel so special and this is the beginning of my love letter to them.

So, THANK YOU to my family and friends who have stuck by through the thick and thin. Who tell me the truth even when I didn't want to hear it and who wouldn't allow me to settle for less. Thank you to the ones who point me back to my moral beliefs and compass. Thank you to the ones who laugh at my lame jokes and comments, embarrassing moments, and my contradicting thought process. Thank you the ones who spoil me with the 5 love languages. If you have no idea what I'm talking about CLICK HERE.  Thank you to the ones who pick up where we last left off with no question on where our friendship stands. Thank you to the ones who have pushed me to be the best person I can be. Thank you to the ones who have made me feel special by dressing me up on the outside and on the inside. The ones who have pushed me to try new things, who have challenged me, and give me the best hope too. Ultimately, I thank God that He gave me the best thing... which is YOU guys! Who are truly the best things that happened to me, even when I don't say it enough. 

I dedicate the chorus of this song to you...

These are things I had to say
#DreaSaidIt


Monday, October 26, 2015

Walking with Strangers

Hey Blog Followers,

I'm going to get straight into my thoughts and points tonight. I have been thinking about the question, when do strangers become familiar faces and when do our familiar face friends/family become strangers? 

Life doesn't make sense sometimes and I don't mean to sound negative about it, but truly I don't get it sometimes. One of my favorite quotes from Gossip Girl is, 

"In life, as in art, some endings are bittersweet. Especially when it comes to love. Sometimes fate throws two lovers together only to rip them apart."

I'm not talking about lovers or love here. But, replace the word "lover" with stranger, or friend, or family. I know the typical answer that I have heard many times before...everyone comes into our lives for a reason or for a season,  A blessing, or a lesson, blah blah blah. 

Are we living a life with full of strangers? Perhaps. Think about the people you know if your life right now. At some point were they a stranger and now your best friend? Were they family and now you feel distant and don't have a clue about where to even start with them? I have ran into people who are not friends, nor strangers, nor family, so what are they and how is it that I ended doing this thing called life with them. Co-workers, the cashiers at the gas station, the bank teller, our doctors, familiar hikers, gym goers, etc.  

HOW COOL is that though!? That everyone we meet and see has the potential of making a mark in the memory spots of our brains. That even if people do disappear in our lives it can still be part of your story no matter how big or how small of an impact they made. I know strangers who have helped me along the way to where I am now and I don't even know there name, but I have their face implanted in my brain. For example, the guys who helped me when I got rear ended last year. Or the girl who actually ended up hitting my car. The lady who basically told me to go to South Africa. STRANGERS! Implanted in my brain and made in impact in my life in some way.

What about you blog followers? What are your answers or perspectives on this topic?

These are things I had to say.
#DreaSaidIt

Sunday, September 27, 2015

A Harden Heart

Hey Blog Followers,

I hope this wonderful new season that we call, FALL, has been a good start for you. Well, the truth is depending where you are in the country or in the world for that matter, it doesn't feel like it yet. However, the point is,  I love that seasons change, but my favorite thing about fall is that it's a time to start preparing for rest and maybe come up with some new reflections or revelations. 

I am in a season of life where I feel so stuck in the middle of this youth and adult transition, which I know many young adults can relate to. I am going to be 26 this year... (26!!!!) I feel so much like a kid still. I don't know if I am in denial right now or I'm just not allowing it to be an option to grow up. I admire the young adults in my life who have embraced this responsibility, whether it was by choice or not. However, for me, I'm stuck. People come to me and sometimes ask for my professional or non-professional opinion and the first thing I say to myself is, "Why in the world are they coming to me?, I'm not adult enough for this."

I haven't really been feeling like myself lately. I feel mean, unkind, and ungracious. I am tired of saying yes when in reality what I mean to say is no. Maybe some of you can relate where you feel you have said yes yes yes so much and then you either resent it, or the one time you say no, you start feel that you are these mean words..."I'm mean, because I didn't say yes." I need to find a balance, but I don't want to lose myself either, which I feel like I am.  

I made a promise to myself that  I wasn't going to do something just do it. Also, I wasn't going to stick with the things that make me unhappy, because I value every second that I am given on this earth and I want to fill it up with only positivity and things that bring me joy. However, there is a danger that comes with those rules. It's tempting to give up people and on things that you once started with a purpose and now is becoming unfinished work. 

I ask myself, why is my heart hardening? Who is the person that God has planned for me to be?  I know that sometimes life events attribute to harden hearts and I can say this week for sure has attributed to that. However, I'm disappointed in myself with how I handle it. I feel a disgrace to my faith sometimes, because I am suppose to be practicing kindness, grace, love, etc. What am I so afraid losing or gaining?, because if I have God then I shouldn't be afraid of anything and I should be showing His light all over, even in the darkness. The story of Job is a perfect example.

I write this out,  because it's part of my therapy and way of processing my thoughts and feelings. However, I would love to hear for you if you are able to relate or give advice on what to do about this? 

These are things I had to say today.
#DreaSaidIt



Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Craving adventure and investing 20 hours on a new skill


Hi blog followers,

It's been a while since I have posted last, so I hope you are doing well in whatever season of life you are currently in. This season of life is all about school. A new school year has begun and let me tell you it's been go go go since day 1. I can't believe that next week will mark 1 month down of school!

Starting my new job at my new school has been a harder transition than what I was expecting it to be. Whether you are a kid or an adult, being a newbie definitely has it's challenges. A new culture, rules, faces and names to remember. It's not a bad thing, it's just different.

One thing I have been excited about is I gave my students a semester long assignment, which is from now until December they need to invest 20 hours into learning a new skill that they are interested in learning. They need to incorporate technology as one of their resources, but I'm still ok with them getting a book or shadowing a person to help them learn their new skill. I was initially thinking they can youtube how to do something, Pinterest,  get a language software if needed...resources are endless! Regardless, they are into it and they have inspired me to do it with them too. I still haven't decided what my new skill is going to be. For years I have been trying to sit down and learn French, "Clair de Lune" by Debussy on the piano, intense computer programming, and cooking my moms meals. I'll let you know what I end up deciding.

These kids have come up with some awesome goals from memorizing long poems, learning new languages, learning how to bake a cake from scratch and decorating it, becoming a better runner and sports players, learning to draw anime, writing books, website making, and the list goes on. I am so inspired and so proud of them already! It starts with the heart, you got to have the heart and willingness to want to learn something and hopefully it comes true.

Even though I feel the season of life I am currently in is pretty busy and fast paced, there are some things that I have been craving deep inside, which are new adventures. Some will be near and some will be far, because there are many trails to be walked on, many sunrises to still see, oceans to swim in, and people to meet.

This past weekend I went on a hike near my home. I have been on this hike many times, but this time I soaked in how beautiful the sun and mountains/hills looked. I have realized that I have the power to keep seeking these fun spots and that is definitely something I will be doing more of. Many more weekend trips are to come!

Let me know what are some skills you want to learn or any cool adventure spots that are worth putting on my list!

These are the things I had to say.
#DreaSaidIt

Here comes the sun
Early Morning Smiles


  

 

 


 






Thursday, July 23, 2015

Another God miracle story! I ran into someone I have been hoping to run into for a long time!

Hey blog followers,

I have not been good about keeping up with my posts lately, but I really wanted to share this story!

So, back in Fall 2009 I studied abroad in South Africa and maybe I will write a post about how much that journey has impacted me today. However, the point of today is different than that.

It all started off back in 6th grade when I took choir with Mrs. Kelley. Well, she taught us a song called, "Shosholoza". At the time I fell in love with that song and it forever was implanted in my brain with no idea where the origin came from or the meaning of they lyrics. Hear it here (This is from the Invictus soundtrack). 

When I was in South Africa I heard it when 2 little boys were singing it outside our bus one time and I totally recognized it and even knew the lyrics still! It was such a internal magical moment for me. Who would have thought a 6th grade choir class would have such an impact on me. When I got back from South Africa I wanted to tell Mrs. Kelley how much her class impacted me and especially that song. She use to drive a blue beetle and every time I would see one on the road I would look in to see if it was her. The question I ask myself now, even if it were to have been her would I have followed her all the way home? Would I have honked to get her attention...lol. I have no idea.


Anyways, TODAY I finally ran into her! I was going into the bank and she was going in too and I couldn't believe it! My search and wonders have finally concluded! I was able to talk to her and let her know how much that song and that moment in time had a major impact in my life! 

It truly is God's perfect timing, because 1) she told me she ended up moving to another city and she was at the bank to deal with address change and 2) what if I had gone through the drive-thru atm, which I highly considered! I would have totally missed her!

I am so in aw and just humbled by God's love and His faithfullness! All I can really say is, thanks be to God and for awesome teachers who have impacted my life. It gave me inspiration to continue to make a positive impact to my students, especially as a start a new school year at a new school in a couple weeks! 

These are the things I had to say.
#DreaSaidIt

Friday, June 26, 2015

The Capitol Theme Party-For The Hunger Game Lovers


Hey Blog Followers,

Today I was thinking how cool it would be to have a Capitol Theme party. Having this party would be so awesome for the month of October or November, especially since the last movie will come out this November!  I want to hear some of your ideas and what would make it the ultimate party, but for now here are some of my brainstorm ideas.

Decor:
I would picture a capitol party to look a different couple ways.

Option 1: Black and white, but with hints of colorful accents.
Option 2: Very modern looking and lots of abstract concepts.
Option 3: Very white with color accents
Option 4: Very colorful with lanterns and super crazy and colorful lights. 

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Fashion:
How fun would it be to see your friends dress up in extreme colors, wear mismatch or too matchy clothing,  and wear pounds of make-up?
Photo Credit: http://salemoregonhairsalon.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/hunger-games-capitol-fashion.jpg
I think there are lots of different ways you could go with this, but here are some basics:

 Ladies: Wigs, hair coloring, crazy eyelashes, scarves, hats, leggings, fancy dresses, OH man the list can go on.

Guys: Hair coloring, make up, smooth or crazy hair, suits, I'm not really sure, but let's just say it's an open book. 

Food:
I couldn't help, but put this image in:

Photo Credit: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/44/97/cb/4497cb30f3f205f1ff4902ff667a1be0.jpg
Here are some other ideas:
  • Fancy pumpkin soup
  • Colorful drinks (non-alcoholic preferably, but hey-that's just me) 
  • Fancy and very colorful desserts! 

Music:
The Hunger Games soundtrack...just kidding. I'm not really sure what I would picture for capitol music. It might be a combination of classical in the day and techno at night, but that's just my opinion. 

I have no idea if this is a party I will be throwing or pulling off anytime soon, but hey you never know and dreaming is always a good starting place.

I want to hear from you blog followers: Would this be a party you would go to? What else do you picture a capitol party to look like? 

These are the things I had to say.

#DreaSaidIt

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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

From 180 min commute to an 8 minute commute


Hey Blog Followers!

Have you ever heard the saying that so much can change in a year? Well, I can say that pretty much sums up my life right now.

Background Story:
In September 2014 (not even a year ago) I accepted a computer teaching position at Culver City Middle School (here is the link to that post just in case you missed it). At first, I couldn't believe that I would end up teaching middle school computers and after a trying, but successful year my heart changed where  I couldn't see myself going back to teaching elementary, because I have loved teaching middle school students and computers so much! However, finding a job like that isn't always easy, so I felt torn on what to do next. Do I look for jobs near home even though they might not be middle school computers or do I stay at in Culver City and suck up the commute for at least another year?

Well, I give thanks, praises, and glory to God, because he blessed me with my heart's desire for the dilemma I was having!

I have accepted a position to teach Computer Electives for Sandburg Middle School in GLENDORA! I'm not a Gutter Titan anymore, but a Sandbox Spartan (Glendorian's will get that...). It's all still so surreal for me and probably will be until I start teaching! 

There are so many miracles, small stories, and people along the way that made this possible and I might write a whole blog post on every single miracle that led to this point. However, right now I briefly want to share this journal entry that I wrote after I started my first couple days at Culver City:

Journal Entry I wrote on September 13, 2014:
"...[me complaining about the commute] It's only day 2! I don't know what is going to happen. I'm already praying for a solution! My heart really doesn't want to make L.A. my home, even if it is temporary. My whole life is in Glendora, church, family, and friends. My dad made so many sacrifices to give us what we have, just like my Heavenly Father sacrifice is the greatest act of love. I guess I don't know what I'm sacrificing for."

God heard me and even though the solution didn't come right away, he used my 1st year teaching experience to prepare me for a job that only He knew would come to exist in the future. He prepared me in so many ways and even though I complained along the way, He was still gracious, merciful, and understanding. At the time I didn't know what I was sacrificing for, but now I am so thankful to God for not allowing me to give up.

I don't know what trials you are currently facing, but my prayer is that God will allow you to keep pushing through it and that it will come back and become a blessing to you! Don't be afraid to listen to your gut feelings and I mainly want to encourage you to dream big!

My question to you blog followers is, what is one thing that you feel would be so impossible to accomplish? Whatever it is you choose, please let me know so that I can pray with you that God will turn that impossible to a possible!


These are the things I had to say.

#DreaSaidIt



Monday, May 25, 2015

Lucky are You


Hey Blog Followers,

The poem you are about to read was inspired by my family and friends that come from all walks of life. I hope it's a positive poem for you as it's been positive composing experience for me.


Lucky Are You

Lucky are you who found your love at a young age, so that you can enjoy it longer.

Lucky are you that found your love later in life and didn't lose hope.

Lucky are you who found someone who loves and accepts you for who you are.

Lucky are you, the ones who struggle in your relationship, that you can over come it together.

Lucky are you who found the courage to end an unhealthy relationship.

Lucky are you who have been able to be remarry or find love again, for God showed grace and mercy.

Lucky are you, who still are waiting for your story is still in the making.

Lucky are you who have had your heart broken, but yet still believe and hope for love.

Lucky are you the ones who don't settle for less than what you deserve.

Lucky are you who have a peace about your relationship status.

Lucky are you who are still finding that peace, since you are in the mist of the journey.

We are lucky in some way, whether we are married, divorced, remarried, single, or no label.

These are things I had to say.

#DreaSaidIt

Photo Credit: LiveLifeHappy."We meet people for a reason. Either they're a blessing or a lesson." https://www.flickr.com/photos/deeplifequotes/8149721682


Sunday, May 3, 2015

What is beyond this Earth?


Hey Blog Followers!

I hope you had an awesome and restful weekend. I can't say that I had a restful weekend, but overall it was pretty awesome! I know spending a little more than a full 72 hours with at least 50 8th graders isn't everyone's cup of tea, however for me it was a privilege to witness these kids light up at Astro Camp! I wish you could have been there to see these kids problem solve, getting excited about taking on challenges, and over coming fears!  

Have you taken the time to really reflect how our Earth and all the elements it carries, really works? How about reflecting beyond the things that are outside of our world? Sometimes trying to find the answer to one thing leads to asking questions to at least 100 more things! That is exactly what happened to me. I guess the main question I have is what in the world(no pun intended) is beyond this Earth? I know there are the technical answers...planets, galaxies, supernovas, etc! But truly, what is the purpose of having all these things that we can't really reach?

I'm not really a big believer that other life exists out "there", but even if it did, what would be the reasoning? Since I don't believe that there is life outside of this Earth then it leaves me with the faith that God is way bigger than I could have ever imagined or pictured him to be. He is more detailed. More creative. More technical. More knowing. More awesome than I give him credit for. I'm not on a journey to figure out the answers, but I'm on a journey of reflecting and soaking in how awesome the God of the universe is and that He has created a purpose for you and me! We seem so small compared to everything else that He has created, but yet, he chose to love us more than all those things! He chose us, knowing that we would deny Him and possibly not choose Him back!

I want to hear from you too blog followers? What on Earth and beyond is out there? What do you guys believe, research, dream of that could be out "there"? Hey maybe I could be wrong and there are other signs of life out there, like in "Zenon Girl of the 21st Century?" :)



These are the things I had to say.

#DreaSaidIt

Photo Credit:
 http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/e/ee/Hubble_image_of_Abell_68.jpg


Saturday, April 25, 2015

What direction do I take?


Hey Blog Followers!

It's been a while since my last post...and I feel that's how I start off almost every post I write. 

Is it just me or do you ever just feel overwhelmed with what direction to take in your life/career/clothing options? I already have a hard time deciding what I'm going to be eating for lunch, let alone what I'm suppose to be doing career wise for what it feels like the rest of my life. It's tough and I know many of us 20 something age group (or many 30, 40, 50 year olds) can relate. 

I don't classify myself as a Computer Science anything. I just say i'm a teacher who teaches computers and sometimes I don't even know what that means. However, when I talk to other people I feel they think I went to school for this (kinda did, but not really) and that I can automatically fix any computer program and know exactly all the cool innovative things that are out there or will be coming out. Sometimes I do and MANY times...I have no clue. I'm learning just as much (typical teacher answer...), but it's the truth! Especially with technology, there is always a new thing out there, a new update, a NEW SOMETHING!

So, it leads me back to the question, "What direction am I suppose to take?" In the field of computers it feels like the options are endless. Graphic design, computer programming, teaching, engineering, coding, Google certifications, Microsoft expert...it's so overwhelming. I keep asking myself, where do I need to invest my time and money, especially because this field can be a financial commitment. 

Part of me has had the fun sucked out of it, because my hobby became work (which is not a bad thing, but not a good thing either-I'm feeling indifferent about it now) However, it's just added some pressure that I wasn't ready to deal with. I know in the end it's going to turn out beyond better than what I could imagine. I am thankful that there are opportunities to be looking into. There are so many gifted and talented people out there and they are the ones who inspire me to keep seeking, whatever it is that I am hoping to find. 

I want to hear from you too blog followers! Tell me I'm not alone in this search of, "What direction do I take?" question. Life is exciting and the sky still feels like the limit. I hope it does for you too!

These are the things I had to say.

#DreaSaidIt

Sunday, January 25, 2015

My 2 Week Online Dating Experience!

Hi Blog Followers! 

Another week has come and gone and  not only that, but January is already coming to an end! My last blog was about the motto I chose for this 2015 year, which is "Doing Something About It", which was why I decided I would try online dating, which only lasted 2 weeks, even though I thought it was going to be at least a 3 month experience (No refund...but it's OK, because I learned so  much in this process that I have no regrets).

People asked me several times if I would ever considered online dating and my answer was an automatic,  NO. It was a mixture of reasons on why not 1) Being judged 2) Not really feeling called to do it and 3) the fear of the unknown. 

So why? Why did I sign up? I can't really pin point the exact thing on why or what finally triggered it for me...it was a combination of Boredom over Christmas break, watching too many online dating commercials pop over break, curiosity...  and then I was asked by someone, "What are you doing about meeting people?" 

Ok, so now the experience....where to even begin. I felt soooooo overwhelmed by it all. The first part is filling out everything about yourself. It really made reflect on "Is this truly me or is this what I think of me or is it a combination of both, or would others agree or am I lying to myself?" The next part was filling out about what I would want in my date and I wrote it down with no problem, because of course as I girl I know EXACTLY what I want...or so I thought. 

Then came the messages and the awkward introductions or just the really forward guys that sometimes I didn't even know what to say. Dating now a days is just a tricky thing sometimes and online dating is no exception. It has it's pros and cons. 

The Pros: 

  • In theory, everyone on there is single and isn't judging you because you guys are all kinda there for the same reason...the most common reasons 1) I work long hours and don't have time to meet people 2) I don't want to meet my future spouse at a bar or club 3) I just want someone to share my life with. (I'm only reporting my experience and not judging!) 
  • You don't have to talk to everyone that approaches you.
  • But if you do, at least you are practicing talking again.


The Cons: 

  • You've got all kinds of people (like way older men in my case) trying to make some efforts.
  • You can't really make a reference check...they are technically strangers.
  • Inconsistency. 
  • Rejecting... it's hard no matter what. 
  • Cost money


Quickly I realized that this wasn't going to be for me, but the beauty of all of this is that God used this very awkward experience and turned it around for His glory, because this is what I got out of it:

1) I realized I am a VERY broken and sinful person, which brought me back to how much I need a Savior (Jesus) in my life. This is why I say this: I have been taught in my faith that we are not suppose to be judging others and to me that is EXACTLY what I felt I had to do during this.  You are judging someone based off of their picture, words, likes/dislikes, height, occupation....and I struggled with that right away. I also realized with that how gracious and merciful God is to me!!! How much He loves me to call me back to Him despite of my stains and sins. 

2) I saw myself putting myself on a pedal stool and making myself that I am better than people (Back to sin). I don't care if you judge me, but I'm being honest to myself right now. The best example I could give for this is I felt it would be really hard to date someone who didn't have a degree that is close to mine or better. Um....hello??? Do I even know their story or journey? Do I even realize how blessed I am?

3) I am going to have to put my full trust and faith in God alone. Not on a online dating website, not in family, friends, church, work, etc. God alone knows the story.  I have no idea how I'm going to meet my future spouse (Lord willing), because the odds aren't really in my favor sitting at home most nights, but I believe that is what is going to make the story more miraculous! 

4) I have a special place in my heart for the guys and girls that make the effort to put themselves out there, but are often over looked , but yet keep trying! I pray a special blessing for you guys, because it is so tough to be vulnerable sometimes, especially when rejection is an option! You guys are the ones that inspire me!

Online dating is something I would never judge anyone for trying and if anything I totally encourage people to sign up and try it for themselves! Don't judge until you have been there and I have totally heard of plenty of success stories!!! I would just encourage you to 1) Be completely grounded in who you are 2) Don't change your standards for any reasons 3) Pray about it 4) Have someone to keep  you accountable- because it's really easy to get caught up in it.


I want to hear from you blog followers! I want to hear about your success stories, your online dating experiences (the good and bad), questions?! I'm more than happy to share. This was the quick version and I wish I could have explained my full experience better, because the truth is, for me, it goes back to God's love, grace, and mercy!

I hope to keep blogging, specifically about dating in this time in history or specifically in our culture and I would love for you to be a part of it! Look out for it in my next post! 


These are the things I had to say.

Drea Said It

Monday, January 19, 2015

My Motto for 2015

Hey Blog Followers!!!

Happy 2015! I hope it's been a great start to the new year and even if it hasn't, the good news is we still have the rest of the year to turn it around. 

Today, I wanted to share with you about a counseling secession I attended a couple weekends ago and the topic was about how to deal with transition! We are constantly living in transitions and I know 2014 couldn't have been more of a transition year for me! I had to transition from having a job to having my first real grown up job, seeing my sister get married, and really just having to grow up in a lot of ways I wasn't really prepared for (first car accident!!!) 

Some of you are transitioning from being single to getting to relationships or maybe transitioning from being a mom of 1 to now a mom of 2, maybe you are transitioning in a new job position, break up, budget cuts, commute, who knows... But regardless, there is something or something will eventually come! 

The secession I went to made me write down and reflect on 2014 of all the events that took place! It's funny how we forget about the struggles sometimes, but as we are in them we think it's the end of the world. I encourage you to write them down and take some time to reflect! I can send you the template if you would like!

Anyways, by the end of the secession I concluded that I have the power to change the things that I'm not happy about. Many of my close family and friends know that I can complain.... ALOT. Bless their hearts for the ones who put up with it. However, I even got sick of it myself, that I decided my motto for 2015 is : "Do something about it". I have the power to do something about it!!!  If I really dislike my commute so much then it's up to me to do something about it. Or if I feel I'm ready to start dating again, then instead of complaining-I'm going to do something about it (I have a whole blog for that coming out soon).

You have the power to do something about it too! What are some things you guys are making excuses or complaining about that you can start changing your thought process on actually doing something about it??? Let me know blog followers so that we can support one another.


These are the things I had to say.

#Dreasaidit